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That part about if someone else had “the good looks, the job, the money- they’d be a better version of me” hit home. Currently on month 8 of no contact with my ex. She’s now with a “lower value” guy than me but I’m still staying strong. And for the naysayers, I’ve gotten her back before after long periods of no contact but this time I’m doing NC “the right way” as Coach Ken talks about.

Sir, did you say that you leave your socks on the table? 😂😂😂 Great video!

great advice coach ken!! best channel about the topic!!!

You hit the nail on the head. Thank you. Very helpful

Your amazing thank you for this video you really helped me understand how to center my intentional energy! ❤

you’re brilliant with your delivery, needed this

thank you so much for another insightful video Ken!

Coach, I love your content.. But if you're going to charge as much as you do for discord access, please at least buy a $5 windscreen for your microphone!

This is really true

It’s the narrative that we need to grow a 6 pack, get a promotion at work, have the charisma of a stand-up comedian, the seduction skills of James Bond, the social schedule of the celebrity……while we are dealing with the breakup. This is the most discouraging thing about dealing with the breakup recovery community.

Your the man Ken. This helps so much buddy!!

The reason for the downgrade is that they view people as swappable use cases (whether for material or emotional supply). Therefore, their intrinsic value does not matter at all. The low hanging fruit likely provided them with a higher immediate output to boost whatever life plans they came up with. It's a game of attach, use, drain, discard, repeat. Don't look any further or blame yourself for it. You can never get a leech to hang on to you forever.

That was great

Hey coach ken, these videos of yours really made me cope a lot better. So my ex and I were in 3 years and 7 months relationship, cuz of the lack of communication as the reason of the breakup, yah we’re totally opposite cuz I’m an athlete which is more goal oriented while she was a much chill person or I can considered a lay back person, she rebounded after 2-3 weeks of the breakup with this guy who’s totally the opposite of me and similar to her, well as you said, give it time, let’s see where both of em can take that ship

This video is absolutely brilliant, thank you. Resonates extremely deeply for me.

What about women dumpee? Could you do a video like this about us s😢… and maybe in a LDR context 😢

If someone is so angered by your little flaws that it drives them to abandon you to be with someone else, good riddance. When you truly love someone, you embrace their faults and enjoy their smile after every silly argument, cause it's silly. People that expect constant growth in all aspects of their relationship are mentally ill and should get therapy before entering a serious adult relationship cause they clearly are living in a fantasy.

Ken another great video, how long does limerince last ?

Hey coach ken I strongly believe my ex boyfriend is quiet borderline. You're videos helped me understand to cope better. ❤ I appreciate you! During this time of healing from him, I wonder if he Does come back. How will I know what girl he really wants if he pushed us all away? I worry what if he comes back he gets therapy but what is going through my mind is since he probably pushed every girl away because he is quiet borderline how will I know who he really wants. Should I ask or leave it alone if things do end up working out? Also because he is QB should I even take him back in the first place? I want to be ready just in case. I will be 3 months NC soon and am ready to walk away as well as possibly stay based on his decision to get therapy if he does come back thanks!

Why would you want to make it work with someone with BPD? Forever playing a game with someone who cannot ever truly love you? Forget it and ghost them forever.

Coach Ken is the best the connects like no other.. still listen as I go through this awful journey.. thank Ken, still hurting, but you help so much

"I don't want you to abandon me, so I'll make sure you do"

You brought me back. This video brought back so much pain. Imon this channel for bpd girlfriend. But my story is the same as yours. Omg why am i attracting the same kind of people. Im reminded ao much pain and forgive

Omg you are a guru. I never heard this video. Omg im in the same boat. Shocked

Hey there, Coach. I hope things are going well. I wanted to say thank you for all that you do. You've really helped me (and I know countless others as well) get through the worst and the hardest times of our lives. Along with Coach Lee and a few others. I can't ever thank you guys enough! However, things are ACTUALLY starting to get better!! When I NEVER thought they would, or that they even could, just a very short amount of time ago. It's incredible. I mean, it seemed truly, truly hopeless!! But, I have an important inquiry/request that I need your help with, please. Do you, by any chance, know what happened to that video you made where you were brutally open and honest and vulnerable about all that you went through when you were in your own deep heartbreak? The one where you mentioned things like "Begging God to just take you, or to just not let you wake up the next day, because you knew you were never gonna take yourself out." The one where you were talking in detail about how it felt. And how it was like your face and your skin were on fire and how it created a burning sensation throughout your body. About that hole you feel in your gut, and that pain in your chest, that makes it hard to breathe. Etc... I swear I've looked and looked and checked.... And gone back through, watching video after video over again, looking for it... And I simply cannot find it! It's driving me mad. Lol That was honestly the most powerful, as well as the most helpful of all your videos, for me. Showing just how much you get it, and understand it all, and can actually commiserate. Because you've been through it and felt it yourself. You explained it all so well in that video. Even though you had to be super vulnerable in order to share that experience with all of us! You showed you know precisely how it can feel, along with all the ancillary effects that come along with it, when you're in that devastatingly low position in life! So I'm desperately curious... Did you erase it or something? Because, for the life of me, I just can't find it. And I seriously need to show it to someone! I know you're super busy and have a full schedule. So I feel terrible even asking you to disrupt your time and all the other tasks you need to focus on... But, if you can please help me out, or point me to the correct video, or even just tell me if you deleted it, I would seriously appreciate it. ~Thank you so much, again. FOR EVERYTHING!! 😊🙏

Coach Ken...After watching literally hundreds of videos, from v e r y gifted healers, I want you to know that y o u r words have brought me the absolute m o s t hope and healing through this intensely sad season of my life. I just want to join s o many you have helped heal, in saying thank y o u. Thank you for sharing your healing advice and vast experience, both personal and professional. I feel hope once again because of y o u .

I broke NC after 2 days and then after 4 days 😔. I restarted the clock again but now I MUST stop. If he keeps not answering I have to understand that even if I pushed and helped causing the break up he’s not my person. He wouldn’t leave me unanswered and alone

There seems to be overwhelming pressure from the breakup recovery community (especially if you’re a man) that you need to… …get a promotion at work, get a six-pack, double your social circle, double your charisma, have the wit and humor of a professional stand-up comedian, the social schedule of a celebrity…. All at the lowest moment of your life…..I can’t take it!

So I have a situation where I was with my ex for 3yrs, she broke up with me last summer (well after the 100th time I told her that she did it again it was done). So she broke up and I respected that and worked on myself and got into a relationship with another woman. This is where it gets sticky, she found out that new girl was 18yrs younger than her so she wasn't happy about that and I had to hear it. I was stupid and let her back into my life and so it went for the next months before she discarded me again for a month. Again I wanted and started to move on with my partner that has been there from day one. Guess what she came back again. The last time I broke it off and walked. It has only been a week and I dont know how it is going to end (hopefully not with my life 😂) when she finds out that I am serious that it is the last time. It has been a huge mental F and I have to live with what was done to my current partner by my poor choices. In a way it felt like that my ex was just coming back to show she still had control and I am done with her doing this.

This advice is wonderful. I may need to watch this 100 times but I am super grateful I saw this today.

Can someone help me. My ex borderline just reached out after 6 months of no contact. We had a positive chat for 20 minutes. My messages were on the same level as hers. She said she would reach out later in night. Never did. 2 days later, texted her " hope you have a good day", she did the same. That was it. 3rd day, late evening, I texted her a short message saying "Hey, didn't mean to bother. Just hoping you're feeling better." (She previously had mentioned she was coming down with something) She replied "yeah, please don't text me daily or this late. Thanks." It's been 5 days since, and I haven't texted her since I'm giving her space. Am I doing this right? Any help would be appreciated.

I have adhd and tend to be over nurturing. I have been married, now I'm divorced and single. I've been single for 12 years. No dates or nor have I found anyone I interested in me or, I can't say I hadn't been interested in anyone. I have and it never went well at all. I get upset and well, once I realized what I was doing wrong and what I don't want to repeat, I shut off my feelings for them. I recently did so because I know if a man is interested in me, he would make the effort. So I keep my distance if things are way off with the person I'm interested In. I'm not going to be the dependent or anxiously attached person. If you want to also distant yourself, fine. But I have no more tears to cry.. I'm tired and I got things to do. Is this wrong of me to feel like this?

I'm nearly 6 months into no contact and it's my birthday next week. He ghosted in January after a 3 year relationship. I wish they'd do lots of videos on what to do when ghosted. I already know though. You gotta move on. Now that I'm nearly 6 months into no contact I've given up. I've not had a text call or anything from him and never even knew why he broke up with me. I didn't chase I let him have his ghosting and I became his ghost. At this point now I think I'm done. I've realised if someone loves you they don't leave you. It's not what I want in my life games and strategies. No contact does help you heal though you slowly get stronger. But 6 months Im just thinking right that's it. Anyone that comes back at this late stage in the game is just bored or broken up with someone else. I can't be bothered with him anymore. 👻

After 5 months of breakup and not only did he come back he moved in with me!!! But in the following 9 months of living together I saw what God was trying to protect me from in the first place. I ended the relationship 3 months ago and haven’t looked back. Best choice ever to have walked away.

i fucking needed this today. THanks!

What is my ex girlfriend was in monckey branching with the same man on and off for over a year .she kept coming back to me , how can I handle it ? Thanks coach ken

Thank you sir

What if I asked him not to contact me again?

Coach, you are talking like you honestly feel our issues inside. Amazing. Most break ups go with patterns but details matter, you can make these tiny but very individual and crucial points out in your speech. You must be hell of a therapist. Thank You for materials and effort.

22:56....logic or not, if my soon to be ex-wife even dates another man, then that's a deal-breaker. She's done and I'd never want to see her again. Just saying. If it's after the divorce is signed then so be it.

My qbpd I've been with for 12 years, but when I see of the Comment section I surprised that I lasted that long before she cheated and discarded me. But mine was violent Mentally and Physically And her family was enabling the abuse. After she discarded me, she started slandering me online. I didn't know about borderline until Found it. I looked it up after she discarded me.

Oh my God! There is something really dark about this that you are saying. And with this comment i m not blamming you, i m just thinking of how dark and fucked up all of this is...

This makes me sick to the bones. Knowing that there are well intentioned in love guys. Being made guilt of arrasment is a tragic and traumatic thing in our history as man.

What if it's annoying leadership?

Thank you for all your incredible insight and knowledge. You eased my mind and helped me remember who I am. That is priceless. Talk to you soon for an update. Ttyl

PLEASE I NEED HELP NOW!!My bdggf of 7years is moving away in less then 3 weeks and whants us to breekup wich I agreed too even if thats not what i want...at first her reaction was to demonize me and see me as all bad she told me "u fucked me up" but i was able to convince her that for the time remaining we should love each other and she changed her vibe and agreed but it seems to backfire me because shes seems like shes totally ok wit the breakup now and dosent hate me she tells me she loves me but i feel her mentally just getting futher away from me then ever before...my question is IM I DOING THE RIGHT THING? If i plan to go no contact after in the hope of getting wit her back one day or should I try to make her hate me again before she leaves because i feel like maybe that would be better in the long run...please help!!!

Thanks Ken. I have adhd and feel broken after a break up and it's so intense. Your words help me so thankyou friend 🙏

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It’s hard but I think I can make it